You all know the story:
Man with a daughter marries a woman with daughters, man leaves picture, and man's daughter is punished out of hatred and jealousy. Girl overcomes the punishments, works hard, and meets Prince Charming anyway. But what-if we make ourselves Cinderella in the story and use that to meet our own goals?
First let's reassign the primary roles.
Evil Step-Mother Lady Tremaine: A tall, slender, dark woman with high expectations and a desire to push her own priorities onto Cinderella. She demands perfection, and the success of only her own. Today her role will be played by our own perfectionism. You know that little voice in your head that says "I can't really do it all right all now, so I'll start when I can."
Evil Step-Sister Anastasia: A clumsy, spoiled, whiny, selfish girl, who takes joy in humiliating Cinderella. She believes herself to be better than her poor cinder covered Step-Sister. Her role today will be played by our own fear of failure and self doubt. How many times do we not even start something because we don't think we can actually do it?
Evil Step-Sister Drizzela: The older of the two Step-Sisters who is vain, abusive, greedy, and lazy. These girls have been handed everything their whole lives and wouldn't know the first thing about working. Drizzela barks order after order, and purposely tries to unhinge Cinderella. The role of Drizzela today will be our own lack of motivation and unorganized ways of thinking. Sometimes we just don't have the get up and go to get started.
Lucifer: The pompous, gluttonous cat that sabotages Cinderella time and time again. The royal pet of the Lady Tremaine, the little fur-ball who does her dirty work, today will be played by Life. That's right life. Each time you think you have everything rocking the way it should be life comes along and throws a wrench right into your spokes. That little creature that none of us can escape from.
Bruno: The loyal, understanding, bloodhound of Cinderella. Her oldest, closest friend, and gift from her father. Bruno understands the torture Cinderella deals with from her step-mother and step-sisters, and is always there when Lucifer strikes. Bruno's role is going to be played by your oldest and closest friend. In my case this has always been my sister. Who's your Bruno?
Jaq: He's the leader of the mice, and the only one brave enough to take on Lucifer all by himself. Jaq is going to be our determination and bravery, albeit small sometimes, it's still there!
Gus and the other Mice: Grateful for protection and food, the mice do whatever they can to help out Cinderella. When the tiny creatures work together they create big things. Today the role of Gus and the other mice is going to be played by strategy. When we break up those big things into tiny tasks, big things get done and we don't even notice.
Fairy Godmother: That sweet, short, plump, motherly woman who yields a magic wand and makes all our wishes come true. Wouldn't it be awesome if we all really really had one? Thing is we all kind of already do. Today her role is going to be played by our Perseverance. Magic happens when we don't give up!
Prince Charming: First of all is he really that "charming"? I mean he falls in love with you then forgets your name and what you look like, some prince. Come on ladies, wouldn't y'all rather have the stable boy anyway? Or maybe not. Today the role of Prince Charming is being played by those Resolutions. Let's think about them for a minute. Are they really what you want to achieve? Are they larger than life, do they need to be reworked or reworded? I've included the definitions of two words at the bottom to help answer that question.
Now that our enemies and allies have been clearly defined, I'm going to give you the formula for exactly how to reach your goals and resolutions. Each of your enemies has equal and opposite allies and when carefully pitted against each other, Cinderella wins. Think of the story again for a few minutes. Consider how each of Cinderella's friends, helped her overcome the hatred and jealousy of the Step-Mother and her evil helpers.
APPLY that knowledge now to your goals and resolutions! Use the following steps as a guide:
1. Team up with Bruno: Pick someone you're close to, to keep you accountable and help you keep sight of your goals when Life throws it's ugly little two bits in.
2. Address your perfectionism: Nothing will ever be perfect, perfect is a myth. That paper you turned in as a final draft wasn't really. All it was is the last draft ready at the time it was due. Don't try to make yourself produce perfectionism. Let it go! Forget about that Evil Step-Mother, she isn't YOUR mother.
3. Lean on Jaq: Find your own determination and bravery and soon that light will shine so bright you won't even remember those evil step-sisters of yours.
4. Take lead from Gus and the other mice: Break each of your resolutions and goals into 12 pieces. Work on achieving each goal then move on to the next. And give yourself little reminders (and rewards) everywhere you may need one to stay on track with that goal.
5. Cinderella didn't bitch: [I borrowed that from a very cool woman I know and her husband's Harley Shop] She didn't complain, she kept working. Sure she got frustrated from time to time, and even broke down a little. We are all human after all. But for the most part she kept working, and singing, and working. And she believed she was going to get to her happy ending. Her perseverance paid off in her Fairy Godmother. Your fairy godmother is your perseverance. Keep believing and you will go to the ball too.
6. Enjoy the journey as much as you would enjoy the Prince (or stable boy): Take pride in each piece of your goal accomplished, and reward yourself for it.
I've found this is a good way to teach kids about resolutions and how to achieve them (leaving out that bit about the stable boy of course). What advice would you give someone to reach their goals? What have you already done toward your own?
the act determining upon an action or course of action, method, procedure, etc.; the act ofresolving.
the act or process of separating into constituent or elementary parts or resolving.
the result or achievement toward which effort is directed; aim; end.
the terminal point in a race.
a pole, line, or other marker by which such a point is indicated.
the act of throwing, carrying, kicking, driving, etc., a ball or puck into such an area or object.
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